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Information for Partners
Many women
experience difficulties reaching orgasm with a lover for many reasons.
Following are some of the more common ones.
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- You're too busy in your head -- thinking
about how aroused you are or aren't, what your partner thinks of you,
whether s/he can keep the movement going, etc. You think too much,
instead of focusing on the sensations of what's going on sexually.
- You may be afraid that you won't orgasm. So
you don't even bother trying and end up completely repressing your
sexual response.
- You're afraid of seeming demanding by
asking too much of your partner (that is, asking to be stimulated the
way you like it, and the way you know it works).
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- You're afraid that if your partner
concentrates on your pleasure only, you'll feel too much pressure to
come, leaving you incapacitated sexually.
- You and your partner are trying too hard to
have simultaneous orgasms. Given that they're pretty difficult to do,
the trying could certainly get in the way.
- You're conflicted about your relationship
with your partner. Or you're angry with him/her. Unconsciously then, you
hold back your orgasm as a way of protecting yourself.
- You've always thought of sex as something
dirty or something that you shouldn't enjoy. The guilt then gets in the
way of your true enjoyment of the experience.
- You rush into sex with your partner. You're
not leaving yourself enough time to get fully aroused and come to
climax. Your orgasm ends up getting pushed aside during sex.
If any of these ring true, don't blame
yourself. Many women have problems with their partners or at certain times
in their lives.
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